Many Moms come from not-so-perfect families and have not experienced much emotional safety. Often, women are attracted to people with similar unsafe characteristics in friends and romantic partners. We become constricted and closed up in the presence of someone who is critical, rigid, or harsh. It is not uncommon for those individuals to also be abusive as well. Who comes to mind right now?
People feel emotionally safe when they are seen, feel safe and secure, and are soothed when in distress. They feel heard when they express their thoughts and opinions. They are free from any concerns that others will leave them or hurt them emotionally or physically. They also generously receive positive attention from loved ones, affection, playfulness, smiles, appreciation for what they do and who they are. Essentially a safe home environment encourages family members to be themselves! Who is that person that makes you feel at peace, calm, and where you are welcomed to be yourself? Who comes to mind? What is it about him or her that helps you to just be you?
As you take the quiz above, be as honest as possible, and refrain from judging or criticizing yourself. We are all a work in progress. Allow the results to be a guideline to help you create a home that is healthy, happy, and harmonious for you and your beautiful family.