Are You Mothering from an Unhealed Place? Signs of the Mother Wound
Are You Mothering from an Unhealed Place?
Signs of the Mother Wound
By Amelia Mora Mars, LMFT
Somewhere along the way, many of us were taught to hold it all together. To be the strong one. To push through, no matter how tired, hurt, or invisible we felt. But that kind of strength, when it comes from survival rather than support, can leave a deep imprint. One that shows up not just in how we care for ourselves, but in how we mother.
This is the mother wound. A quiet but powerful form of generational trauma that lives in the body and the heart.
It doesn’t mean your mother was all bad or that you are. It means you may have inherited emotional patterns rooted in pain, silence, or perfectionism. And you’re not alone.
Here are a few quiet signs you may be mothering from an unhealed place:
You feel guilty when you take time for yourself.
You constantly second guess your parenting decisions.
You feel responsible for everyone’s emotions.
You swing between overgiving and emotional exhaustion.
You find it hard to ask for help or set boundaries.
If this speaks to you, hear me clearly: You are not broken. You’re carrying inherited stories that were never yours to begin with.
Healing the mother wound isn’t about blame. It’s about breaking cycles with tenderness and truth. It’s about learning to mother yourself with the same compassion and care you give your children. This is the heart of conscious parenting.
And yes, I know, it’s hard. Especially when your own needs have lived at the bottom of the list for years. But you matter. Your healing matters. Your children will feel the shift, even if they don’t have the words for it.
Start small. Rest without guilt. Say no without explanation. Ask for support without shame. These are revolutionary acts for a woman who was taught to be everything for everyone.
You are worthy of a life where your needs are not an afterthought. Where love is not earned through sacrifice. And where strength includes softness.
You can break the cycle. Heal the generational trauma. Rewrite the story for yourself and your children.
We can heal what we didn’t choose. And it begins with truth, gentleness, and one brave step at a time.
You're doing better than you think.
With heart,
Amelia
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