(805) 244-8489
I help guide daughters of emotionally unavailable mothers to stop believing the lies, start trusting their God-given worth, and become the safe, loving mothers they were created to be.
You love your daughter.
But part of you is terrified of becoming your mother.
You swore you’d never repeat the past.
And yet…
The fear is still there.
The doubt.
The ache that won’t let go.
You’re exhausted from over-functioning.
From always being the strong one.
The one who holds it together—at the cost of your own heart.
You’ve tried therapy.
Read all the books.
Even taken medication.
But the ache remains.
I see you. I was you.
It’s not your fault.
You think the problem is you.
That you’re too emotional.
Too needy.
Not doing enough.
But here’s the truth:
You were raised by someone emotionally unavailable.
So you learned to stay small, silent, and strong just to survive.
Now those patterns are trapped in your nervous system—quietly shaping your motherhood.
You’re not broken.
You’re unmothered.
And it’s time to heal.
You’re Fighting An Invisible War
Every time you lie awake worrying, you’ll mess up your family…
Every time you push your needs aside just to be “enough”…
Every time you hear your mother’s voice come out of your mouth…
That’s not failure.
That’s unhealed pain trying to protect you.
And yes—it’s emotional, generational, and spiritual.
But healing is possible. And you don’t have to fight alone.
It’s time to stop surviving and start transforming for your family, your legacy, and your soul.
Here’s What I Offer Differently
I’m Amelia Mora Mars, LMFT, and Concierge Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapist.
I help women—especially daughters of emotionally unavailable mothers—break generational cycles of silence, shame, and emotional scarcity.
With ketamine-assisted therapy, we gently bypass the mental loops and reach the deeper truth inside:
Where your story lives.
Where the fear began.
Where the healing begins.
This isn’t just science.
This is sacred work.
And I walk every step with you—body, mind, and soul.
This Is What Changes
You stop living in fear of the past.
You connect to your daughter and your family with presence and peace.
You feel worthy of love, rest, and being mothered by you.
You don’t just heal for you. You heal for your future generations.
My Promise To You
I won’t rush your healing. I won’t dismiss your pain.
And I won’t hand you another strategy to manage symptoms.
We go deeper. With warmth. With safety. With care.
Ready To Reclaim The Mother You Were Meant To Be?
Call or Text me at (805) 244-8489 to Schedule a Consultation Now
Because the mother inside you... the one full of love, grace, and presence.
She's not gone. She's just buried.
And, I know how to help you find her again.
Hi, I'm Amelia
I'm a Christian therapist, mom of ten, and founder of Transformations Counseling in Westlake Village, California.
I'm a specialist in healing the unseen wounds of women who’ve spent their lives feeling unseen.
Whether through faith-rooted talk therapy or deeper work with KAP, I create a safe space for you to reconnect with your voice, your story, and the truth of who God created you to be.
You Don't Have to Carry This Alone
Therapy for Women
Are you feeling…
• Anxious, depressed, or like you're never good enough?
• Overwhelmed by shame, abandonment, or trauma you can’t shake?
• Afraid of intimacy, vulnerability, or truly being seen?
• Exhausted from people-pleasing, perfectionism, and putting everyone else first?
Faith-Based Therapy for Christian Women
For women who want therapy that honors both emotional healing and spiritual growth. I provide compassionate, Christ-centered counseling that helps you experience grace, peace, and deeper connection with yourself, others, and God.
Many people carry deep hurt from spiritual experiences that were meant to heal but instead caused pain. Imperfect people lead churches, and sometimes words or actions meant to guide can wound those who are intended to help.
Spiritual trauma can make it hard to trust others or even God. In therapy, we can gently untangle faith from fear, rebuilding a relationship with God rooted in grace, truth, and compassion.
Therapy for Moms
At Every Age, Stage & Phase of Motherhood
Whether you’re a…
• Pregnant mom anxiously awaiting your baby
• New mom battling postpartum, exhaustion, and overwhelm
• Stay-at-home mom feeling isolated and undervalued
• Working mom haunted by the voice that says you're not doing enough
• Empty nester unsure how to transition into what’s next
Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy
When Talk Therapy & Medication Isn’t Enough—KAP Meets You Where You Are
Whether you’re a…
Woman who has always been the emotional anchor for everyone else
Man who carries the weight of providing and protecting, often in silence
Mother who pushed down her own needs to hold the family together
Father striving to be present but unsure how to rest, release, or reconnect
Adult child still shaped by a home of silence, chaos, or emotional neglect
Parent watching your teen suffer without relief
Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy offers more than relief — it provides revelation.
Client Experiences
"I have found joy in living, which I still consider unreal sometimes."
I was severely depressed and chronically anxious. I tried a variety of alternatives, and I didn’t seem to be able to get out of the desperate state of trauma and sadness that I was in. I felt at the end of my rope. After a decade of suffering with several mental health issues, I feel now I can handle the ups and downs of life without the extreme reaction that I used to have.
It makes a huge difference to have a therapist like Amelia, who understands trauma and is compassionate and knowledgeable about this new and rewarding treatment.
I have found joy in living, which I still consider unreal sometimes.
LS, Travel Writer
Blogs
The Woman Still Waiting for the Hug She Never Got
The Woman Still Waiting for the Hug She Never Got
I remember being about nine years old when I made a quiet, heartbreaking decision.
My mother’s affection came in waves... sometimes warm, sometimes unreachable. One day, after trying to lean on her just to feel close, I chose to turn off my own emotions. It felt too risky to need something she couldn’t always give.
That’s the day I stopped reaching out for hugs.
Instead, I found safer ways to love. I saved up my babysitting money and walked four miles alone to buy birthday and holiday gifts for my family. I wrote love notes. I gave quietly, from a distance. Because love, at least in that form, couldn’t reject me.
Some of you, I know, did the same.
For every woman who still longs for the hug she didn’t get, this is the warmth we deserved.
And some of you are still waiting for that hug.
When Touch Doesn’t Feel Safe
You may find it challenging to express or receive affection with your partner.
You may stiffen when your child reaches for a cuddle.
You might feel numb, or even guilty, because touch should feel natural, right?
But here’s the truth no one tells us:
When physical touch wasn’t safe, consistent, or welcome in childhood, our nervous system remembers, even if our mind has moved on.
What We Don’t Say Out Loud
We don’t talk about how confusing it is when we crave closeness but flinch when it arrives.
We don’t admit that something as small as a hug can feel like too much.
We don’t say how strange it feels to grow up in a culture—like my Costa Rican family—where hugging is expected… and still feel shut down inside.
But I understand. You are not broken. You are not cold.
You adapted. And that’s a kind of brilliance.
5 Gentle Steps Toward Feeling Safe With Touch
1. Notice your body first
When someone reaches for you, pause. Ask: Do I feel tense? Open? Numb?
No judgment, just awareness.
2. Set your own pace
You don’t have to force a big embrace. Start with a brief contact, a gentle touch on your shoulder, and a longer handshake. Let your system get used to safety.
3. Practice with people you trust
Maybe it’s your child, or a friend who “gets it.” Let them know you’re working on this. Connection can be healing when it’s honest.
4. Try self‑holding
It sounds simple, but placing your hand on your heart or hugging a pillow while you breathe deeply can calm your nervous system. It’s a way of saying: “we’re safe now.”
5. Give yourself grace
This isn’t about becoming a “hugger.” It’s about becoming more you—the version that feels whole, connected, and free to choose.
You Still Deserve That Hug
Even if your mother couldn’t give it.
Even if you’ve spent decades without it.
Even if you’re just now learning how to let it in.
You still deserve that hug.
And maybe—just maybe—you’ll be the one to give it to yourself first.
Want more support around touch, trauma, or healing relationships?
I invite you to explore therapy or ketamine‑assisted psychotherapy with me. You're not alone in this work, and you don’t have to go it alone.
Learn more about my therapy approach (https://ameliamoramars.com/services)
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